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Frequently Asked Questions
1. FYI: General Information About NYS Weddings

NYS marriage licenses must be used with NYS only. The betrothed couple must apply in person for the marriage license to any town or city clerk in the state.
The license application must be signed by both applicants in the presence of the clerk.
A representative, even with Power of Attorney, cannot apply for the license on behalf of the applicant. The couple MUST personally appear to apply for their license.
There is a waiting period of 24 hours and is good for 60 days.
If one or both of the couple were previously married they must provide a certified copy of their Divorce Decree or Dissolution of Marriage to the clerk issuing their marriage license.
A person is required to establish proof of age and identity by submitting to the issuing clerk one of the following age-related documents:

Birth Certificate
Baptismal Record
Naturalization Record
Census Record
One of the following identity-related documents:
Driver License
Employment Picture ID
Immigration Record

For more license information please access the website at http://www.cityclerk.nyc.gov/html/marriage/license.shtml
2. We are a gay couple from different religious upbringings, but are not particularly religious. We would like to know, first of all, if you marry gay couples, and if so, if you will incorporate a prayer from each of our religious backgrounds which we think would be respectful to our families?

Yes, I will joyfully marry you and your beloved and I am excited to incorporate prayers and other elements from your different religious backgrounds to develop a tasteful, unique ceremony that celebrates you both, and of course, your love.
3. What do you wear to officiate weddings?

I have robes and a beautiful stole, pant suits, dresses and dress skirts with jackets. I can color coordinate with your wedding or wear a themed outfit if you prefer.
4. Do we meet with you if we just want a short, simple ceremony or elopement?

No, we can skype or talk via email, phone calls so we can discuss any elements which you might want in your ceremony (for example: writing your own vows, a reading, etc.)
5. Do you have coverage if any emergency arises?

Yes, I have a network of officiants that I can work with in cases like this. I would find one that doesn’t have a ceremony booked for that time on that date. I would email them your ceremony/details . When they arrive you would give she/he the marriage license and they would fill out the paperwork. You would also give them your final payment, as you would if it were me, as I authorize them to receive it from you. I would follow up with them to ask that they send you and I a copy of the Marriage License. I have never had to utilize this option. It’s an important question that you ask and could happen with any wedding officiant. Barring a terrible illness or tragedy, I would always be there, and in either one of these circumstances I would find someone else to perform your ceremony.
6. How early do you arrive and how closely in between ceremonies do you schedule them?

I arrive one hour before your ceremony and I always schedule my ceremonies HOURS apart .
This gives me time to travel and arrive with a calm presence and ready to go; help with any issues, do a run through rehearsal with groom and wedding party if need be, etc.
7. How soon should we book our wedding ceremony with you and will you be the one to perform our ceremony?

If your ceremony is “in the season,” I would book as soon as possible. Officiants and venues book up quickly. I always perform my ceremonies because I treat each ceremony as my own personal work of art and all my couples are special to me.
8. What about the rehearsal-will you come?

I arrive an hour before the wedding and can always do a run through at venue. Most often the wedding planner/maître d will do a thorough run through with you both and your wedding party and I am not needed.
If we do a separate rehearsal then there is an extra charge for the extra time it will take.
9. When we book our wedding with you how much of a deposit is required and is it refundable?

A 50% non-refundable deposit is required to hold your ceremony date and time. Once you book with me, I reserve that time and day with you and turn away all inquiries for that specific time frame on that day. I email you paperwork which is a contract between you, the couple, and myself. It will state on it the final payment schedule. The final remaining payment is due on the ceremony day in cash. The contract can be printed out to be read and signed and emailed back to me with your deposit to the address I have listed on that form.
10. We have our marriage license over 24 hours and have decided to elope. Can you marry us today?

Yes, I am extremely flexible and love the spontaneity of that situation. Let’s do it!
11. We are from Europe but desire to be married in the Big Apple. What is the criteria to be married in NY?

Great! Well, you must apply for a marriage license (Please read over FAQ # 1, go on the website to read requirements). You do not need to be residents; you just need to have your license and an officiant who is registered in New York, which I am.
12. What do you feel sets you apart from other officiants?

Well, honestly I don’t know them all so I can only speak for myself. I grew up in Queens, New York in a tight knit family surrounded by love. My parents, unfortunately, are no longer on earth but I feel their love every day. I am married almost thirty years to my husband and have three beautiful, great children. I consider myself to be, and have been told I am, a kind, compassionate lady. I cherish all the wonderful friends I have in my life and have quite a few since childhood. I am detail oriented and always want to please my couples because I feel I am here to make them happy and fulfill their wishes with my creative spirit. I have a multitude of resources at my fingertips and receive an immense amount of happiness and satisfaction when I give a couple what they yearn for on their special day. Each wedding I create is my own special “work of art”.

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