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Can be done at any time of the day or evening that uses a fire element and special keepsake candles to symbolize the joining together of your individual lives into your new married one.


This ceremony, like the candle ceremony, also represents leaving two separate lives to create one life together. The bride and groom each choose a colored sand that is in a container and they come together at a certain point in the ceremony to pour their sand simultaneously into the vase. This creates a unique design to signify their first unified experience as husband and wife. It can also be revised to incorporate their children.


A single red rose has always meant “I Love You” This ceremony can be utilized to fit into different ceremony wants and needs.

For the bride and groom: At the end of the wedding ceremony after you have been pronounced husband and wife, you each present each other with the single red rose, symbolizing your first gift to each other as a newly married couple.
Another variation as a newly married couple is one where you can stop as you are exiting and hand each of your mothers your rosebud from the rose ceremony and whisper “I love you” to them. I find this a special, intimate way to include your mothers in the ceremony.



Including your children in the ceremony provides an opportunity for a commitment to be made between a child and a new parent, where the parent vows to accept the child and the child accepts the new parent and the biological parent vows to support their relationship.
hand binding ceremony



hand_binding_ceremonyBride and groom join right hand to right hand, left hand to left hand which are bound by a ceremonial wrap or rope to signify their marriage union. The expression “tying the knot” came from this Celtic marriage ritual.




This tradition of “jumping the broom” symbolizes sweeping away the old and welcoming the new- a new beginning. The couple joins hands and jumps together over the broom. This takes place after the couple is pronounced husband and wife.



The ritual of the blessing stones, or wishing stones, is a wonderful way to include your bridal party and family and guests by offering their blessings and good wishes to the newlyweds. It is an intimate way to ensure that everyone will make contact with the Bride and Groom at some point during this day. The ritual may be performed at the ceremony itself (before the final blessing), or at the conclusion of the service (in a receiving line manner.) When guests arrive at the ceremony, they are given a Blessing Stone along with a note card with words printed on it such as “My wish for you is …” or “May you be blessed with…” or “May God bless you with …” At some point during the ceremony the guests will share their blessing or wish for the couple and toss the stone into a Blessed Bowl, Wishing Well, a fountain (or whatever is chosen to hold the stones.) Then those notes with the blessings may be placed into a basket or decorative container for the couple to reflect on later. Many couples keep their Blessing Stones in a special place in their homes to remind them of all the good wishes, love and blessings shared at their ceremony.



A Jewish tradition that usually occurs at the end of the wedding ceremony and before the kiss. It serves to remind each and all to consider those vows as an irrevocable act just as permanent and final as “the breaking of the glass.”



This ceremony is an ancient profession of faith which maintains belief in the heart (demonstrated in the binding of the hands with rope), faith in the mind (demonstrated in the lighting of the candles) and trust in the soul (demonstrated in the drinking of the ale or wine) are all that is needed to lead an honorable, loving and fulfilled life together. It usually takes place just prior to the ring exchange or at the end of the wedding ceremony.



Because our hands are believed to be the connection to the heart, their joining unites two hearts. This signifies the bond of the heart in the promises made between the bride and groom. This ceremony most commonly takes place just before the exchange of rings.



This ceremony is a variation of the Jumping the Broom Ceremony- respectfully created for our armed forces, police officers and firefighters that serve our country. Again, usually performed before the pronouncement and before the introduction of the new Bride and Groom. The Line represents the individual (either Bride or Groom or both) as a member of military (green line), police (blue line) or firefighter (red line.) When the couple “jumps the line” together it symbolizes that the spouse, who is not a member of that profession, acknowledges and respects the honor, duty and responsibility that goes along with the badge and accepts that they are now a permanent part of that life. The “jumping the line” ritual together symbolizes their marriage and partnership.

As with the wedding ceremonies I create, I can also help you revise a ritual for your ceremony or we can create a new one together!

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